In our mysterious, complicated world where the truth is always more than we know, where there are both right answers and many, many, many wrong answers, and where so many decisions have unintended consequences, how do we navigate?
The answer is INSIGHT.
Insight is our personal path to deeper truth. It is easy to get caught up in superficial living, chasing synthetic goals, thinking we will wind up with our real dreams. It doesn’t work.
WARNING: A life of insight involves risk. It is only for those brave enough to grow and to constantly challenge themselves. But its rewards are huge. Every day becomes a new step in an unfolding adventure rather than a stale repeat of yesterday’s routines.
Insight is a deeper way to approach truth, understanding your life, your talents and your significance. It is your essential inner guidance system that connects with external reality. Without Insight, it is virtually impossible to become aware of what, at your deepest level, you already know. If that sounds mysterious, it isn’t. Insight has been the path to life’s deepest satisfactions since human beings began dreaming about something more, something better.
Insight is a quantum leap of imagination or understanding that brings us to a whole new way of looking at some aspect of our lives. It’s the WOW. The Eureka. Or, sometimes, the Duh. We take in a certain amount of knowledge and experience, in a given area, and then suddenly – BAM – we shift to a new, expanded level. A broader way of seeing things. Insight can be relatively subtle or a true wow moment.
The two ingredients that produce Insight are Intention and Open-Mindedness.
Most of us live our lives without clear intention. We don’t make decisions on purpose. We just sort of react and respond as the moment demands. Stuff just happens. Life has a random, chaotic quality. Will today be a good day or bad day? Who knows? Sometimes things work out. Sometimes they don’t. We judge our happiness and success, at any given moment, by the outer results that are popping up for us. The externals.
- Do I have the stuff I want?
- Do I live where I want to live?
- Do I have the spouse or partner I want?
- Do I have the kids, a car, the job, recognition, the health, etc. that I want?
We don’t employ conscious Intention. Conscious intention is waking up in the morning and saying to oneself, “No matter what happens today, I will use it as an opportunity to strengthen my character. I will love more deeply, express enthusiasm and inspire others,” are examples. It puts the day’s events into a meaningful perspective.
An intention is NOT A PLAN, not a schedule, not a list of bullet points, not a quantifiable statement of financial goals. Intention is a general determination that we keep in the back pocket of our inner life. Holding a clear intention about the quality of our life is important. Most people believe we live in a cause-effect world. We think, “if we’re not in control of the causes, we won’t get the results we want.” But what if intention creates causes? Causes that lead to effects that can’t be controlled. According to some philosophers, intention is the father of causes. So, to create the causes of your best life, intention is essential.
Intention is not something we force or obsess over. You see, insight always seems to arrive when we’re not thinking, not concentrating, not “working the program.” There’s an old story of a student who goes to a Zen master seeking Insight. She says, “Master, if I study with you, how long will it take me to achieve Insight?” The master says, “Ten years.” “Ten years?!” the student exclaims, “That’s so long!” What if I try double hard?” The master says, “Twenty years.
Intention doesn’t mean trying hard. Intention means knowing where we want to go but not knowing how we’re going to get there. We form our intentions, then we put them aside. We store them in our hearts. We leave them in the background and pay attention to reality. We give our moment-by-moment awareness to what’s going on right now, at this moment. Not what we want to happen.
The great basketball coach John Wooden was once asked what kind of player he would want to see holding the ball if his team were down by one point with time for one final shot. He said that players who have a fear of failure tend to choke. Players who obsess about winning tend to over-try. He would want to get the ball to a player who would simply focus on scoring.
Wooden knew the difference between Intention and Attention. Winning is the Intention, the overall goal. Scoring is the process, the place where we need to put our attention right now. When we confuse the intention of what we want with the process of getting it, we over-try or choke.
No matter how clear our intentions are, we must have open minds or we won’t receive any insight. Insight does not come to a mind locked behind bars of its own prejudices. Our brains simply cling to known orbits. Quantum leaps of new ideas or beliefs are so scary, they don’t occur. Most of the time we think the same thoughts, come to the same conclusions, hold the same opinions. We only look for evidence to confirm the views we already have. We operate on assumptions.
We must learn techniques for breaking our minds out of imprisoning mental ruts If we want to liberate our thinking so that new Insights on choosing and living our best life can be received. We don’t create Insight, we don’t force it; it comes to us. And in order for it to do that, we need to be in a receptive state. We need to have an open mind.
Pardon my Zen, but a second parable comes to mind. Maybe you’ve heard it. A college professor goes to visit a Zen master in order to gain wisdom and insight. The professor prattles on, telling the Zen master about all of the books he has read and all the knowledge he has already mastered. The Zen master nods politely, pouring tea into his visitor’s cup. When the teacup is full, the Zen master keeps right on pouring. The professor reacts in horror. “What are you doing? The cup is overflowing!” The Zen master says, “How can I pour insight into you when your cup is already full?”
Having a conscious, open, receptive mind has been a challenge in every era, but is particularly hard in the modern, technological era. Technology and the media permeate our lives. Computers, TV’s, cell phones, social media, advertisements, books… It buzzes 24/7, telling us what to think, how to think, and who to think like. It bombards us from all sides, feeding us recycled opinions, concerns, desires and goals.
Our world has a MENTAL FLU. Idea viruses infect us CONSTANTLY.
It is very easy to “sleepwalk” through an entire life, our minds filled with viral ideas “poured” into us from outside sources. Sometimes it seems more like we are “being thought” than thinking for ourselves.
Opening our mind to receive original insight can be an enormous challenge. It means actively changing the way we use our conscious thinking. It means adopting a creative, pro-active and inquiring attitude rather than a passive, habit-driven one.
To open our minds, we must Reduce Stress and Create Favorable Inner Conditions. Stress makes us stupid. Whenever the emotional part of our brain senses a threat, it reduces our thinking options. It leaves us with only our most familiar and habitual responses. We become angry, protective and defensive. This changes our brains. And so emotional conditions strongly affect our state of mind. Open-mindedness is just not possible under stress.
But how do we reduce stress to create true open-mindedness?
We must FIRST gain control of our mental/emotional state by recognizing our emotional triggers.
Any emotion that is triggered by outside events is ALWAYS IN YOU, not in the trigger. No person or thing outside of us ever creates an emotion. Show a modern 13-year-old a swastika; it probably won’t trigger strong emotions. Show the same symbol to a Holocaust survivor and see what happens. The emotion is not in the symbol. It is in the person. Once we truly get this, we begin to understand that we are the originator of all our emotions. We stop blaming people and events for them. Then something wonderful happens: our emotions begin to come under our control. We are free. Our free will literally expands.
SECOND, we must learn to use “the watcher” within. It’s simple awareness.
The life camera we all have inside watches our lives with a sense of detachment and objectivity. Every time one of your triggers occurs, simply turn on the camera. Imagine you are a documentary film maker zooming in on you. What do you see? Observe yourself. Observe your reactions to the trigger. Be aware. Awareness shifts the events from the realm of the automatic (“He’s making me mad!”) to the realm of the conscious (“There I go, starting to feel angry”) and starts to put the situation under your control.
THIRD, we must create new internal triggers to lessen our automatic responses.
Creating positive triggers means creating habits that free your mind, rather than shut it down and lock it up. You just need to find the angle that opens your mind rather than locks you in. When your child is testing your authority, you can choose to see it as growth rather than a power struggle. When your partner is ignoring you, you can remind yourself that his/her present emotional detachment is not really about you. Find compassion instead of anger. Offer a kind gesture instead of a snipe. Open a genuine discussion rather than whine. In time, a new habit will form. One that invites the new rather than repeats the old.